Wednesday, July 6, 2011
An interesting thing i confirmed about myself in clic!
How to irritate an introvert:
1. Tell an introvert to be more social.If you really want to annoy and even alienate your introvert friend or loved one you should force them to be social by telling them that they have to be more social. You should also mention that being social is what is expected of normal people.
Introverts prefer most of the time to stay at home reading a book or creating something than going out with a bunch of people at the pub. It’s not that an introvert doesn’t want to be with you, but more that he/she wants to be by him/herself instead. Introverts “recharge” by being by themselves.
2. Tell an introvert to talk more.If you want an introvert to never talk to you again you should let them know that they should talk more and try to include them in every conversation.
Introverts tend to stick to the facts and what is practical. If you ask an introvert how the weather is, you will be either be given a short answer like: “The weather is okay”; or they will give a an explanation you would expect from a meteorologist.
Introverts love talking about their field of interest; but they have no interest in talking about something they have no interest in. When it comes to small talk introverts really don’t see the point of it; as it has no practical use to them.
3. Don’t let introverts join the conversation.Keep in mind, it’s you who matters and if you let people speak you have lost! So don’t let any one speak or always interrupt people when speaking; especially if they are introverts. As introverts are really annoyed by this.
Introverts tend to be thinkers and very aware of themselves, therefore they prefer to think before they speak so they can present their view the best way. That is also why most introverts never join a conversation as people who are mostly extroverted tend to speak non-stop and has some strange phobia towards a few seconds silence in a conversation. Extroverts tend to “fight” to get a word in between each other, making introverts see it as a waste of time and effort.
Introvert also dislike being interrupted when they are speaking. As they are thinkers some of what they say is something they have spent some time thinking about, so interrupting them can actually be very rude and hurtful.
4. Tell an introvert that this is fun.If you find something very fun you should force an introvert to do it and tell him/her it is fun. And if they ask why it is fun, just let them know it’s fun because you say so and everyone else does it. Introverts hate being forced to do things.
As mentioned, introverts are very aware of who they are and what they like. Telling an introvert that he/she should do this and that because that is expected, normal, nice and such rarely sounds logical to them, and is also a great way to alienate them. Introverts grow up by being told constantly they are strange, not normal, shy, not social and many other negatively loaded words and that they should change; they really don’t need to be told this any more. Telling someone who is actually normal to constantly change is extremely rude and selfish.
5. Tell an introvert to stop being so honest.If you want to insult and confuse an introvert you should tell him/her that they should stop being so honest.
Introverts are thinkers and focus on facts. If something is green, it is green; simple as that. It’s not that introverts are selfish or lacking empathy, they look at the world as it is. They tend to be very logical beings and prefer to be honest than lie about something. If you can’t handle the truth, don’t ask an introvert for it; because you will for sure get an honest answer. And it’s not our fault you can’t handle it.
6. Don’t let an introvert read his/her book in peace.If you see an introvert working on something or reading a book, go bother them as that will really annoy them.
As you read earlier, introverts needs time alone and solitude to “recharge” and to be happy. When they go into that state of mind they should never ever be bothered. There’s nothing more annoying to having to read a sentence 10 times, lose your focus when creating something or just losing focus in general because someone can’t relax their lips for a few minutes. Doing this to an introvert is like getting woken up in the middle of the night when you are sleeping. I’m pretty sure most of you don’t want your sleep to be disturbed. Same goes for an introverts alone time, we don’t want to be bothered. The more you let an introvert be by him/herself, the less they have to take mini breaks and they are more likely to spend time with you.
7. Let the introvert know what they are doing is a waste of time.What ever they are doing, reading, creating or what not, let them know that it is a waste of time.
As with most things introverts do, it is very important to them. For the observer it might look strange, but for the introvert it makes perfect sense. Telling them what they are doing is childish and useless is like telling them they have no purpose in life. If what they are doing is not hurting anyone, let them do it. Just because they aren’t out binge drinking doesn’t mean they are not having fun. And what do you know, this might be their break through in life.
Okay, so maybe not everything above is true about me, cause i may not be an extreme introvert, but it was a good, fun read!
In conclusion, i am an introvert. :)
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